It's as simple as that. I know there are people hearing this and saying
I'm different, I am not emotional, I can separate sex and emotion. Blah Blah Blah
Listen, even if this were true (another day another topic) it doesn't matter. When you fuck a dude just meeting him you set the bar on the floor for the future. Yes, there are those few exceptional stories of love at first sight but those stories are few and far in between. No he is not calling you to see how your day is going, how you feel, he is not interested in your goals and dreams or even being a part of them. He is calling you to fuck, isn't that what he did when you met? There is no potential for anything else ever!!!!
I spoke to a girl the other day, the sweetest girl you could meet. I have known her for years and for years she has been having the same issues with men. What she fails to realize, is that these are issues that she calls on her self repeatedly. She meets dudes at the club and hits them off in the bathroom or at a church function and fucks them on the first date or when she goes on vacation and just happens to meet "Him". Then she gets all depressed when her attempts to treat this situation like it is anything more than a fuck are pushed aside and her calls are ignored and his are less frequent until they are non existent. If she accepted the fact that most guys arenot going to take her serious after her riske rendevous then maybe, just maybe she would finally treat herself with the respect and love she deserves and wait a minute before giving it up.
For those of you who went on to marry your guy from this situation congrats. Please keep your responses to yourself. This is strictly for the bird who keeps fucking dudes on the hello and just is not learning her lesson. Trust they outnumber the
happily ever afters.
This is not Jerry McGuire, He should not have you on Hello!
Don't rush, if he wants you he will wait. Not only do you ruin your chances of being taken seriously, you also sabotage the perception of the next girl behind you. What does this have to do with you? We will answer that later.
Ok Ok... love the post. I just found this testimonial on google LOL
ReplyDelete"i met a guy for a first date.he's 28 and im 25.we got on really well. you could easily tell we we're comfortable with each other, he told my best mate before we met that he wanted a gf.so durring the date we jusy went with the flow, both thinking whatever happens, happens, he was so keen in me. at the end of the first night he asked for sex coz i was seeing him for the weekend, i said ok. so we selpt with eachother.on the 2nd day everything was still fantastic with him, he was holding my hand and giving me little peck kisses 4 no reason.we live 2hrs away from eachother. when i left to go back home i said that he should visit and he agreed, when i got back home i had'nt heard from him si i called my best friend and she gave him a txt saying "how did yr date go? r u going to be bf and gf?" he txt her back "date was fantastic,she's a top girl, i dont want a relationship,i want fun and be a good friend to her" ive not heard from him at all.he hasnt even told me.i really like him,there was loads of chemistry andloads in common between us. i believe he has lost interest in me and i want him back. how do i regain his interest? why hasnt he contacted me? even though he said he wants to be my best friend he still aint contacted me when i txted him "how r u?". plus he's 28yrs so he should be able to be mature with me and talk to me. please help"
I want to feel sorry for the girl but seriously... what did you think was going to happen? You live two hours away. I know in his mind he was like "shiiitttt... I ain't gonna see her for a minute, might as well get it now." and instead of holding out you just gave it too him on the first night. SMH... Now why would he drive 2 hours to come see you when he already got what he wanted. Like the old saying goes: Why buy the milk when you can get the milk for free!" Ladies do better... Make him work for it!